Why cant parents keep child custody cases about what is best for the kids?

Unfortunately the only person you can control is yourself. Ignore his rants and continue doing what you think is best for the kids. The judge will see this and you will get what you want for them. It's hard for a man to admit that he doesn't have the means to support his family. Men are hunter gatherers. It's instinct to want to provide. Luckily my ex doesn't have that instinct but many men are still holding strong to it. Telling him that he doens't have the money to support them is like telling him that he doesn't have .